I am not... but I have...

Ten years after my graduation from college I recall the starry eyed girl that had a bright future and endless dreams. 

Reflecting on the day with the diploma brought to mind all the things that I am not. 

I am not a wife.

I am not a mother.

I am not a homeowner.

I am not a perfect daughter.

I am not a perfect friend. 

I am not a perfect sister.

I am not a size 2.

I am not an eloquent speaker. 

I am not in control of my temper.   

I am not financially stable. 

I am not as adventurous as I would like to be. 

I am not good at forgiving.  

I am not someone that can see past my expectations of others. 

I am not countless other things. 

I am sure you can fill in the [blank].

But the more I thought about all the things that I am not I noticed many things that I have accomplished.

I have a Masters Degree. 

I have a great career that I love. 

I have a healthy relationship with my sister. 

I have a healthier relationship with my parents. 

I have friends that are my family. 

I have traveled. 

I have gained self-awareness to make better decisions. 

I have fallen in love. 

I have overcome great disappointment. 

I have become skilled at standing up for myself. 

I have learned that it is not always about me. 

I have accepted myself, a little more. 

I have survived my self-doubt. 

I have mostly let go of the past.  

I have survived on my own. 

I have learned to have fun. 

I have not given up on my dreams.

I have learned to forget the deadline for the goals and simply live.   

I have countless other things. 
I am sure you can fill in the [blank].

All and all the last ten years have not gone according to plan but I have learned plans are subject to change.  Despite the things I am not…things I am are not too shabby and I still have plenty of time to accomplish more…